The Playing Field in Phoenix Is Equal When It Comes to Interracial Relationships!

We all know that the Phoenix area is a "hotbed" (forgive the pun) of opportunity for people who want to engage or are already engaged in interracial relationships.

The various cultures in the Valley of the Sun make it too easy for people of different backgrounds to intermingle, become friends and/or become more than friends.

Personally, I love and prefer to see black men and black women together, but I also support interracial relationships. I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't support interracial couples because I used to be an Equal Opportunity Dater back in the day!

But I've really noticed a striking trend in the world of interracial relationships (especially in the Phoenix area) ... more black women are finding love with men of other races!

Do I have a problem with black women dating or marrying men of other races? ... NO!

But I do have a problem with black women claiming that black men are the ONLY ones who are choosing to date outside of their race! Sorry black women, you can't play that victim role anymore! And please don't tell me you were forced to date outside of your race because ALL the BLACK MEN are taken! That's hogwash! You're developing meaningful relationships with men of other races and that's fine with me! Don't diminish your love by saying you had no other choice! BE REAL and BE HAPPY!

I'm thrilled for ANYONE who finds love! The couples could be green-and-red, yellow-and-blue, purple-and-orange ... it doesn't matter to me as long as the lovers treat each other (and other people) with respect!

So black men, as far as I'm concerned, you're off the hook! There's no reason for you to feel guilty when you find genuine love with other cultures - black women are doin' it too!

I'm not trying to start an Interracial Love Parade here, but it's clear to me that the playing field is equal in the Phoenix area!

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Comments

[Idris]

I'm never shocked by the brainwashing that black people have when it come to interracial dating or marriage. The statistics in the US states that only less than 3% of all marriages are interracial and still are a "RARE" event in America. Just because we go out and see 2 or 3 interracial couple has no validity to say that ALL black men or women are "dating outside" their race.

I challenge black women to back up this claim that all or even most black men are dating outside of their race. Black women need to stop reacting on emotion and do some studying on the African American family. 94% of Blacks marry other blacks. Blacks have the lowest cases of interracial marriages than any other ethnic group in the US..........DON'T GIVE WHITE PEOPLE MORE POWER THAN THEY REALLY HAVE!!!!!

[Marie Phillips]

Have you ever been to Minnesota, undoubtedly, the interacial capital of the world, Phoenix, you have not seen nothing... the white women there are bold and agressive and will take your man. especially the black man that has something going for him, black executives have to be strong because the white woman is going to step to you. Sisters are left looking and single because that same boldness from a sister just doesn't work with the brothers, they think we are after their money and or status. So Phoenix, when I observed the situation here, it was no suprise, its happening all over the world...Frankly,it warms my heart to see black couples here,it means there's still hope for the sisters.

[Kevrod]

I am a white man in a relationship with a black woman. She had never dated anyone who was not black before and gave me a chance and I am grateful she did. We have been togeter for 4 years now. She didn't decide to date me for lack of options, she dated me for me. We live in Kalamazoo, mi. btw. We are flirting with the possibility of moving to the Phoenix area in the future, which brought me here. I am concerned about her comfort level moving to an area with lower percentage of African Americans. It's nice to find a site like this and the information available on it. My lady has told me that there's "something"about a black man, and I've discovered there's also "something" about a black woman. So, for those of you reluctant to date anyone other than another black person. I'm not hatin'. Again, great site.

[sabrina]

I move here about two years ago from East Coast and the dating in Phoenix area is very hard for single professional black woman. I don't agree with this article but I believe most of the sista are dating outside of there race because most of black men in Phoenix dont speak to us. Myself and my single professional coworkers can't get date in Phoenix but when we travel for work to another state we have brotha hitting us on all the time. Yes I said Hello to every black man i see around town and they don't speak back. I try to stay positive and realize that GOD is the answer for the dating situation in Phoenix for black women.

[Grant Alexander]

Are we still on this dead topic? Is there other more pressing issues that can be addressed for the benefit of everyone here? I do not care who dates what, it is none of my business. You are free to date a Martian if you like, an extra terrestrial if they will have your earthling ass. My granny a sho nuff cracker married the coalest black may she happened to fall in love with over 50 years ago in the redneck kkk deep south and 22 chillun later, I am the result of that happy union. Two good people created 22 more good people and they me.

Almighty GOD has NO COLOR. He loves ALL people, regardless of color, so take a hint. Stop hatin...

[Reggie]

I am a black man in the Phoenix area and have dated woman of all backgrounds. I would love to date a black woman, but seems black woman only want to date men of other races or if they do date black men come to find out how shallow they are. So my search for a good black woman will continue however, I'm getting older not younger. As a result, I would like to see more black events to get our community back together and give a fair chance to the black singles who don't reside in a area where dating within one's own race is possible.

[Ayesha]

Equal opportunity or not...when it comes to dating...I can only commit my mind, body and soul to a brotha.

[Leslie]

Black men in Phoenix act like they don't even like black women. They go for white,latin and anything that is not black. I think that's a shame for black men to even date outside the race thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. I know some people might think what I'm saying is racist, but I don't care. I'm a black woman who is only attracted to black men and only black men. Dating outside the race is ok for some, but not for me.

[Taylor]

I feel like whatever float’s your boat… I’m a Black woman and it’s sad to say that the black women in Arizona have no class at all, it’s really a small percent of us holding it down out here, the very few ladies that I’ve met are not natives, the majority of us are from California, Michigan, Texas, New York, Chicago etc. I’m not trying to put anyone down but it is what it is, why is it that when I go to the gym it’s only three black women in there with me and that’s on a good day, trust me and I hear this one all the time THICK is in if you ask me that’s just lazy and lazy has never been in, if your thick tone it up, step your game up please go to the gym get your hair done stop at the M.A.C store or if you don’t have money like that try stopping at Wal-Mart, stop it with the long ghetto nails what’s that all about? You’ll never see any rich or professional black successful woman wearing them, subscribe to Essence. Black men and women should date who they want to date, not anyone else because at the of day when it’s all said and done they are at home and happy and you’ll be the one with the frown lines on your face making yourself look old because your too busy hating on someone else. Take all of your negative energy and work on you, let’s get it together for 2009 our new 1st lady of the United States is a Black Woman let’s use this as motivation and show other’s what being black woman is all about.

[mzatee]

I do have a problem with black men dating white women. I am new to the phoenix area well, and I have never seen anything like this before. WOW!!!. I don't buy into the notion that all black men here only date white women. I do agree with one post that said we should not give the topic more power than what it has. I have also have relized, that white women seem to be intimidated by me. Sometimes as black people we do have to love our brothers in spite of the fact that they may date white women. There is no culture here to reinforce him. It is evident that for the men and women who date outside your race , that you don't know your history. and if you do you are naive in thinking that it is all in the past. Yes it is true that some brothers will not even make eye contact with me. but that is not my problem. I do have black men, mexican men, and white men saying hello, and striking up a conversation with me. I know it look bad at times, but keep your head up. That goes for my sisters and brothers. Fellas don't get mad, if you see a sister with someone other than a black man, becuase I'm sure that she got tired of being alone. We need a black community here is we are to thrive. I'm sure that most people are dating outside of the race, because we have nowhere to go. No community. LET'S CHANGE THAT.

[UnsolicitedOpinion]

Wow David - that's an insulting and sterotypical comment. All the Black women I know have completely different shapes, personalities, interests, and opinions. If you heard what you wrote coming out of a White man's mouth, what would you say to him?

[David]

Can someone please tell me where I can meet these single black women? Im not attracted to women from the clubs or bars. I already graduated from college so I don't get the black college student interactions anymore. Are there any other places to see these so called plentiful black women. I'm constantly surrounded by white women so I date them but I prefer black women. Black women have the body shape and personality that I need!

[Idris]

Black and Proud, WAKE UP!! Take the white man and woman out of the center of your thinking. See, I'm not going to let black's EMOTION be a legitimate argument. That's very anti-intellectual!!! Something we have lost in the black community since the rise of "hip-hop" culture.

[Black and Proud]

The 6% of black people that marry outside of their race must live in the Phoenix, AZ area. It's sad.

[The Tax Guy]

Do latinas count? I don't date white girls, but..."queue the sad horns"...lol.

[Idris]

I'm never shocked by the brainwashing that black people have when it come to interracial dating or marriage. The statistics in the US states that only less than 3% of all marriages are interracial and still are a "RARE" event in America. Just because we go out and see 2 or 3 interracial couple has no validity to say that ALL black men or women are "dating outside" their race.

I challenge black women to back up this claim that all or even most black men are dating outside of their race. Black women need to stop reacting on emotion and do some studying on the African American family. 94% of Blacks marry other blacks. Blacks have the lowest cases of interracial marriages than any other ethnic group in the US..........DON'T GIVE WHITE PEOPLE MORE POWER THAN THEY REALLY HAVE!!!!!

[Black and Proud]

It's ridiculous and is an outrage. If I knew the extent of interracial dating in Arizona, I would have never set foot in this state! i am from Chicago, have 3 kids and would ignore their significant other if they were anything other then black. Keep races pure. Be proud of your OWN heritage. if you're black...stay real. If you're white...don't sell out!

[john]

very interesting topic. i have no preference for seeing one race with a specific other race, but am only happy when people find their true love. it confirms racial stereotypes when we expect or want others to date only within their race, as if they are another kind of species and should stick together.

[dbrowsers]

Yeah Karmel,

Child support is a heavy load to bear and the psychological and emotional abuse that some women dish out only compounds the problem. Not only do they damage the absent father, the kids are caught in the crossfire and suffer the most. Prior to the 20th century, men used to get custody of the kids. Women cannot raise sons alone and fathers who are not in their daughters lives leave them unprotected from predators. Its scary nowadays. Homosexuality is claiming both boys and girls and God will not put up with it much longer. Its time to get righteous and resist all of the evil that is prevalent today. The devil is busy and he has most of us blinded. False religion is the main reason why! I will save that for another post unless you want me to elaborate. Peace!

[karmel0613]

dbrowsers-you forgot about child support!...of all my male friends, child support is the #1 expense in their lives...sometimes it seems that is what the other party is most concerned about...then they turn around and will not let the children see the father because they feel their current residence is not good enough for children to go to, not in a nice area of town, etc. How can a black man establish himself if a majority of his funds go to taking care of children he is unable to see?...and God forbid HE date someone that is not black!...I have a cousin who can't even go to her special friends house because his children have already informed thier mother that "...he talks to a white girl with a tattoo..." I can also totally understand why dating outside their race can viewed as a survival tactic. As a biracial woman, I must admit-I've done it a time or two in my day as well. When someone, especially outside of my race helps me and my child (that I get absolutely no help/child support for) get to where we need to be, and loves us unconditionally, you cant help but be more open minded and inclined to interracial dating. For the record though, the man of my dreams has, is, and will always be a strong black man! :o)

[dbrowsers]

How can the playing field be even for Black Men when many are struggling to take care of themselves, let alone someone else? I think that there is a bit of amnesia at work here when people suggest that we have reached a parity level that allows black people to enjoy their lives more fully. Economics and the lack there of is the sole reason why "brothers" are "AWOL" or "MIA'. Sure, some have been able to rise above their circumstance, but for every one that has, there is a thousand more who do not even know where next months rent is coming from. In New York, 50% of all black men are unemployed. In Philadelphia, it is worse! In cities like Chicago, Indianapolis, Cleveland, Detroit, Memphis, Birmingham, Oakland and Los Angeles, just to name a few, the problem is worsening every single day. The crime and violence is escalating due to a lack of "money" to provide the basic necessities. When most brothers choose white females as their mate it is calculated on "survival instincts". It is unfortunate that they are in this condition, but the playing field is not level and you cannot dismiss the cumulative effect that has so many others killing each other, going to prison or becoming homosexuals. So it appears, that maybe, the reason why sisters are going astray or choosing to date interracially is for economic reasons too! In Arizona, how many black men are there above 21 years of age? How many of them are single? How many of them have W-2 earnings over 30,000 dollars annually? How many black men move here each year? How many black men move away each year due to unemployment? How many black men own their own businesses? How many of them have state reported income over 30,000 dollars of profit? Does'nt it take economic resources to court and marry? How many black men are homeless? How many black men are caught up in the alcohol and drug craze? How many black men live or depend on their partners, friends or family to help defray expenses? How many black men in Arizona attend college or universities? All of these things must be weighed and factored into the equations of dating in these modern times. If not, then you will not fully understand why "Brotherman" is AWOL and MIA! I think it is high time, that we both (brothers and sisters) reconsider how we spend our time and resources, or we all risk losing our identity to some other category.

[Beth]

I came here from Philadelphia ten years ago and yes, it was a culture shock. I love black men and I'm attracted to black men. But it was quite obvious then and now that the majority of them date white women here. I can bearly get eye contact from them just for a greeting. I must say with alot of transplants moving here fom other places, it's a tad better. But alot of them realize the ratio of women to men here and are taking advantage of being able to play the field. I would like to see a place (wine bar, etc) to meet some brothas in a mature crowd. We are all so spread out the odds of meeting up with each other is slim. Unfortunately, these circumstances lead the sistas to dating outside their race.

[Lady L]

Well I am a sista dating outside of my race. I've been in AZ for almost 10 years now and men of other races were the only ones that have not been afraid to approach me and ask me out on a date. Prior to moving to AZ I was Pro-Black and I wanted the "All Amercian Black Family" whatever that means...however after several years here and realizing that was not going to become a reality for me I had to step outside of my comfort zone and find love elsewhere or else I would have been sitting here awaiting that "All American Black Family". I'm sure if I was on the East Coast or back in St. Louis, Chicago, Ohio it would be a different story. May everyone find the love they deserve no matter what the race is! I still love my brothas with they fine selves!

[PhxSoul]

Hey Ronda, thanks for your comment - it's time for us to realize that black men AND black women are dating people of other cultures. Our country is a melting pot so it was bound to happen sometime.

[Y.W.]

Wow, maybe there's an increase in my sista's dating outside their race is because the black men in Phoenix seems to not know how to approach a real woman. It's time for us to stop waiting around for brotha's to get it together. So good for every woman of color who has made the decision to be open to real men out here in Phoenix.

[Ronda-PBP]

I have to agree that Black men are not the only ones dating outside their race. As a Black woman in Phoenix we have to learn to be a little more open minded when it comes to dating. I have personally dated men of all races and I don't see a problem with it. I know for a fact it is a myth at "all" of the black men only want white women. Just because we see someone dating a person of another race, doesn't mean they have turn their back on their own kind.